(I wasn’t really sure what kind of picture to add to this blog, since it is quite text heavy. So I decided to go for a picture with me and the sister)
Dear digital lovers,
I just wanted to update you guys about my life. Most of the time I try to keep my blog a positive and happy place. But I have to admit, real life is not always sugar, spice and everything nice. The last 1.5 years have not always been easy and besides the lovely dinners and fun events you see on my blog there has also been some tears shedded about life not always being how I wanted it to be.
As you know I have (and still am..) quite hard on myself regarding learning Danish but slowly word by word I feel like I’m getting a better grip on this language. I’m not there yet, but even though everybody always have been saying “be patience”, I finally understand that I can’t rush it more than I’m already doing.
When moving to Denmark, I started to work for a Danish company at their Dutch customer service and it was definitely not the job I was envisioning when graduating with a Master of Science degree in Finance and Investments. But I knew the boyfriend was worth moving for and that I needed a job for a social security number, but after a year of negativity of crazy customers I decided it was time to move on and to quit the job in March and find something more interesting and “worthy” of my skills. The first couple of months were horrible, it was cold outside and sometimes I would just realize that all I had been doing was sitting inside looking for jobs were they require you to be fluent in Danish. But when Summer started to peek around the corner, it became easier. Of course not earning money is never fun, but reading some books in the park is. And somehow time flew by and I was unemployed for half a year. While I enjoyed reading those books, I was also really sad about not being able to start my career for which I had been studying seven years. And then somehow, out of nowhere, my dream job fell in to my lap. I won’t tell you guys about it yet, since the official contracts haven’t been signed yet, but it’s really the job that I have been dreaming of during university. And I know that it all has to do with patience, if I found this job 6 months ago, my Danish wouldn’t have been good enough: but that’s not how it felt during those 6 months.
When moving to a new country, all you can do is having patience. Not only with work, but also with friends. I have met some pretty rad people (hi Anna and Martin), but also some people (while they were very friendly and nice) that just weren’t my cup of tea. I always felt like I was in between two worlds: the exchange student and the expat, while I kinda was aiming for “the local”. In addition, it is a lot harder to build up a friendship at age 26 than it was in first grade of high school or the university introduction week. Everybody is so busy with setting up their own life, some of them are only here for a shorter period and to add to that I’m just lazy. Sometimes I really just prefer to lay on the couch and turn into a potato, while watching ’90s movies with the boyfriend. But with time passing by, I realize that I have some people around me that are really worthy picking up the phone for and while it might not be the same as calling my big ol’ sister or my best friend from high school, it is pretty cool to get to know some new awesome people!
While I had to wait a while, life is looking pretty awesome again. Please don’t think after reading this blog that I have been crawling up in a corner crying every day since I moved here, because I haven’t. But moving to a new country, learning a new language, finding new friends, missing family can be a lot more challenging that it seems like. But cliche as it sounds, it is really worth it…
To wrap up this blog: these two are my parents about 20 years ago. My mom looks pretty much the same these days and my dad lost his living-the-good-life-double-chin. Luckily they are only a Skype call away!